The Female Orgasm: A Male Perspective

So what is the female orgasm?
Would a man recognise one if it jumped up and bit him?
I doubt it. The three minute fake orgasm sequence from the film“When Harry met Sally” on the huge screen in the darkened lecture theater set the scene perfectly for what was to follow.
Dissatisfaction, disappointment, disinterest, and even downright disgust are common feelings women have about having sex.

The Irish Catholic christian brother philosophy on sex and masturbation came straight from the Taleban school of sexual etiquette. The nuns weren’t far behind, grudgingly admitting that sex in marriage was occasionally necessary for procreation and wasn’t sin as long as you didn’t enjoy it.

The more sexual work I do,the more I realize that guilt, shame, anxiety, and low self-esteem are at the root of most of the nation’s unhappy sex life. And who does the nation talk to about this? Well, I’m afraid it’s not often broached with doctors or other health care workers. Why?

Both are embarrassed. Even though the relationship and sexual dysfunction may be the cause of overwhelming unhappiness patients are reluctant to ask for help. And how many of us, on reaching that delicate, poised moment, in the consultation, break eye contact and re-medicalise the situation for fear of unearthing profound desperation, requiring emotional input?
Opening that Pandora’s box can be cathartic for the patient, but is always draining for the health professional.

I also recommend further home work for self development, as this process needs to be initiated for any lasting resolution. For how to make a girl orgasm, a book called Orgasmology by W. Wilcox is an excellent guide. There are, of course, lots of websites, but one I have found useful is www.orgasmology.com

Visit the site for more explosive sex techniques that give a girl an orgasm in under 3 minutes.

Tips To give A Girl Orgasm - What To Do If Your Girl Is Faking Her Orgasm

It’s every sexually active man’s fear, that his girl is faking her orgasms. So is there a way to tell if a girl’s only acting like she’s in pleasure heaven? And what can a guy do to turn her amateur dramatics into fully blown, sexual satisfaction and give any girl multiple orgasms?

The female orgasm has always been shrouded in mystery for men (and many women!). Unlike a guy’s guaranteed sexual pay-off, a female orgasm is never a certainty; for it to occur at all requires a whole host of special requirements to be met. Things like the male’s sexual technique, the woman’s knowledge of how her body works and responds to different things, and the female’s mood at the time of sex all play a part in either preventing or allowing an orgasm to take place. So let’s tackle the first issue: what signs should you look for to tell if a girl’s putting it on in the sack and not really reaching her ultimate climax?

Sign #1: Blood Flow Signals
When a woman is sexually aroused, the blood flow to specific parts of her body change. These changes are most notable (and useful to us guys!) when a woman climaxes by reaching an orgasm. Here are the Blood Flow Signals you should watch out for:

• Watch her cheeks as you have sex and take note of how red or blushed they are. When a girl climaxes, the blood flow to her face typically increases, you’ll often notice her cheeks suddenly become more pink and flushed.
• Another part of the body that receives an increased flow of blood when a woman reaches orgasm is the nipples – again, try to watch out for how they change as you have sex and especially when she appears to be having an orgasm. If she IS truly cumming, her nipples may very well become harder and more “erect”.
• Her chest is another GREAT place to notice the after-effects of an orgasm. A massive percentage of women, right after they climax, have a red flush on their chests that almost looks like a light rash. If your girl has this, it’s a strong sign she’s just achieved her orgasm.
  
• Lastly, her vagina’s lips (labia). Look for a slight swelling and reddening as another indication that she’s not play-acting her ultimate pleasure.
  

Sign #2: The above blood flow signals are usually noticed just after a woman’s climaxed.
This sign is noticeable only when she’s actually experiencing an orgasm. Try to feel or sense tiny contractions in her vagina – these twitches often happen as a natural result of what a woman is psychically going through and feeling and serve as a really good, accurate indicator of whether or not she’s actually cumming.

Sign #3: When girls reach orgasm, most girls sort of zone out for a moment and then, over the 15-20 seconds that follow their climax, slowly come “back around.” Look for this zoning out effect by watching her eyes after she supposedly cums. Do they look sort of glazed or glassy, even for just a few seconds? The good thing about this sign is that women rarely ever try to or even know how to fake it, so when you DO notice it, it actually tends to mean something significant (and positive!).

Sign #4. Lastly, consider the way she acts and behaves.
When she ‘climaxes’, is it usually from the same kind of stimulation. For example, does she tend to cum most of the time from oral sex or penetrative sex? Is it usually towards the end of your lovemaking or does it seem to happen randomly. If her orgasms are wild and inconsistent and brought about seemingly by completely different kinds of stimulus, there may be something …amiss. Also, does she talk about having an orgasm a lot? Say, after you finish sex, does she often confirm – even without you asking – that she had a great time and came lots? A lot of women do this when they think the man hasn’t believed their orgasmic reactions, so consider what she says and the way she says it carefully.

Overall, your goal is never to be a private investigator in bed. You simply want to know if she’s being satisfied or not, right? To help you ascertain whether or not you’re regularly bringing her to orgasm, look for the 4 signs and signals you’ve just read. If you do think your girl is faking her orgasm, I recommend first talking to her about it. But then, as the real answer to the problem, you should pick up your game and learn exactly how to physically satisfy her – or, for that matter – any woman. There are dozens of techniques and strategies for doing this, all ready to be learn and applied to your sex life…so don’t wait any longer to revolutionize your performance and ability to last longer in bed.

W. Wilcox is the expert author of Orgasmology, an online guide that coaches men on the special techniques that make up the science of explosive sex and give any girl multiple orgasms.